When you meet someone online, it’s easy to assume they’re perfect. After seeing their ever-attractive profile pictures, realizing that they like all the same things you like and dislikes all the same things you dislike, how could you not have them on an instant pedestal?
Instead of jumping on their bandwagon, go over this mental check list to make sure you’re not accidentally dating a douche. People are sly creatures, so keeping their alternative motives on the down low may mask the fact that they’re actually really sketchy people.
Want a little insight on how to spot a guy that’s hiding something? Here’s a list of the most common red flags:
- His e-mail outbox is empty
“When a guy goes out of his way to empty his outbox, it’s because he has something to hide,” says Derek Henry, a self-proclaimed player. “Either he’s talking to other girls, or he’s talking to his boys about you. He wouldn’t spend his time emptying his outbox if there wasn’t something shady in there.”
- He takes his phone to the bathroom
“The chances of him actually having a reason to take his cell to the john other than defense from you seeing who’s calling and texting him are very slim to none,” says Henry.
- He says he’s not looking for a serious relationship
“I can’t tell you how common it is for guys to say this when they’re just looking to get laid. It’s basically a man’s Get Out Of Jail Free card for when a woman gets emotionally attached. We get to sleep with her all we want and when she says she wants to take the relationship to the next level, we get to tell them that they were warned from the start that we weren’t looking for anything serious.”
- He claims that all of his ex’s are ‘crazy’
“If a guy says that all of his ex’s are crazy, what he’s really saying is that he’s OK with his relationships ending badly. A guy that can’t sustain friendships with his ex-girlfriends is the bad news, not his ex’s.”
- He won’t introduce you to his friends
“If he likes you, he’ll introduce you to his friends. It’s a man’s way of introducing you to his world. If he hasn’t done it yet, then either he’s embarrassed of you, or he wants to keep you separate from his buds. Either way, it’s not a good sign for you.”
- He won’t take you out in public
“This one is simple. If all of your ‘dates’ consist of making dinner or watching a movie on your couch, he’s trying to keep you where he wants you– In reach of the bedroom.”
It’s hard to face the realization that someone you’re dating is a jerk, but it’s better to find out sooner rather than later! Whether you’ve been dating for three weeks or three months, take note of these douche-bag-tell-alls and decide if he’s worth your time, or if he’s a waste of it!